In the Loop with Andy Andrews

Discussion line: In this episode, we answer a listener’s question on becoming somebody who asks “Why?”

 

Andy’s levels of achievement from The Little Things:

  • Z: Z’s are the people who don’t do, don’t know, and don’t accomplish anything.
  • D: D’s know how to do
  • T: T’s can not only do something but can also teach
  • L: L’s can not only do and teach but can also lead others in doing something.
  • H: H’s can not only do, lead, and teach, but they also know how a principle works.
  • W: W’s are so high on the ladder that we miss them. They know why a principle works.

 

You can’t get the full value of a principle until you understand why it works.

  • Our parents teach us not to ask “Why?”
  • We only ask “Why” when something is going wrong.
  • Understanding why a principle works can only happen while observing the principle working, so always ask “Why is this working so well?”

 

Something can be true but not the truth.

  • The truth is knowledge about something. The truth is the bottom line, the entirety of the thing.
  • When people have a problem, they keep looking until they find something true, but they rarely continue looking until they find the truth.

 

Personal growth doesn’t end until you die.

  • The hill is always going to get steeper and you will always be climbing.

 

Tune in to hear how to become somebody who asks “Why?”

 

You can also hear more from Andy by subscribing to his new podcast, The Professional Noticer. Just go to AndyAndrews.com/podcast for details. 

Do you have a question for Andy? Call in and your questions might be features on the show!

  • Phone: 1-800-726-ANDY
  • Email: InTheLoop@AndyAndrews.com
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Direct download: ITL295.mp3
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In this episode, we answer a listener’s question on difficulties with their adult child.

 

You’re never going to stop being a parent to your adult child, but you’re not their authority unless they allow it.

  • They don’t have to agree with you about what the best is.
  • Wise people never let themselves out from under the umbrella of authority, even if they have to artificially create it.

 

At some point, financial support can become enablement.

  • Some parents use up all their retirement putting their children through college for a degree they don’t end up using.
  • By providing for them, you make them think they’re more financially able than they really are.
  • At some point, you may have to say, “As much as we’d like to continue doing this, we don’t have the money.”
  • It’s hard to watch your child suffer when all you have to do is pick up your wallet, but struggling can produce success later in life and you might be robbing him of that.

 

Tune in to hear Andy's impression of Zig Ziglar!

 

You can also hear more from Andy by subscribing to his new podcast, The Professional Noticer. Just go to AndyAndrews.com/podcast for details. 

Do you have a question for Andy? Call in and your questions might be features on the show!

  • Phone: 1-800-726-ANDY
  • Email: InTheLoop@AndyAndrews.com
  • Facebook.com/AndyAndrews
  • Twitter.com/AndyAndrews
  • Instagram.com/AndyAndrewsAuthor/

 

Direct download: ITL294_Are_You_Assisting_Your_Adult_Child_or_Enabling_Them_.mp3
Category:Podcast -- posted at: 11:34am CST

In this episode, we answer a listener’s question on self-control.

You can’t force real change in your child.

  • Most parents who want their child to change, try to force the change by setting tight rules.
  • To change someone you need two things: what’s in it for me, and proof beyond a reasonable doubt.

Have conversations with your child about their future.

  • Get specific about where they want to go in life.
  • Tell them you want the best for them, and explain why that change is in their best interest.
  • You discipline them so that they can discipline themselves later in life.
  • Since the best is only one thing, you can be wrong. Let your kids know they can talk to you if they disagree with you.

How important is it for parents to present a united front?

  • It makes things easier.
  • The reason parents don’t present a united front is because they disagree.
  • If it’s a difference of opinion, compromise. If it’s a disagreement over a course of action, have a conversation about it without fighting.

Tune in to hear how Andy parents and communicates with his kids.

You can also hear more from Andy by subscribing to his new podcast, The Professional Noticer. Just go to AndyAndrews.com/podcast for details. 

Do you have a question for Andy? Call in and your questions might be features on the show!

  • Phone: 1-800-726-ANDY
  • Email: InTheLoop@AndyAndrews.com
  • Facebook.com/AndyAndrews
  • Twitter.com/AndyAndrews
  • Instagram.com/AndyAndrewsAuthor/

 

Direct download: ITL293.mp3
Category:Podcast -- posted at: 10:18am CST

In this episode, we answer a listener’s question on the relationship between forgiveness and trust.

 

Forgiveness has the power to either bind or release a family, business, or relationship.

  • Forgiveness means more to the forgiver than to the person being forgiven.
  • In order to forgive someone, they don’t have to ask for it, deserve it, or even be aware you’re forgiving them.
  • Forgiveness is a decision, not an emotion.
  • People can sense bitterness, and they won’t remain around it for long.

 

Forgiveness is about the past—trust is about the future.

  • You can forgive somebody who wrongs you even if you don’t trust them anymore.
  • Someone can prove himself trustworthy again by not making the same mistakes.

 

Tune in to hear the Bible passage that shaped Andy’s view on forgiveness.

 

You can also hear more from Andy by subscribing to his new podcast, The Professional Noticer. Just go to AndyAndrews.com/podcast for details. 

Do you have a question for Andy? Call in and your questions might be features on the show!

  • Phone: 1-800-726-ANDY
  • Email: InTheLoop@AndyAndrews.com
  • Facebook.com/AndyAndrews
  • Twitter.com/AndyAndrews
  • Instagram.com/AndyAndrewsAuthor/
Direct download: ITL292_The_Important_Difference_Between_Forgiveness_and_Trust.mp3
Category:Podcast -- posted at: 9:30am CST