In the Loop with Andy Andrews

On this week’s episode, I answer a listener question on how the boys and I go out of our way to make sure Polly feels respected.


Before we get into some of the specific ways we honor Polly, let me tell you why we think these things are important in the first place.

  • We want to provide an advantage for our children when they are adults.
  • The way you act in your home and when you let your guard down is the way you will act in critical moments.
  • We want to do the same positive things over and over again.
  • There are little bitty things you can do to make your home a happier place.


I love asking HR people and CEOs how they narrow down their search for new managers.

  • They’ll put the word out for a new position and let’s say you get 400 appli You bump most out immediately and have maybe 30 left.
  • You’re now seriously looking at resumes. The next round of 6 to 10 people is personal interviews. Now you’re down to 3 people and they’re all basically the same on paper.
  • You would be shocked at how many times their next step is, “I take them to dinner and watch them.” They will see who holds the door, who stands up when anybody comes to the table, how they shake hands, and how they treat the wait staff and each other.
  • Everything you do matters.


Since a lot of the time Polly is preparing the food, she is the last one to the table.

  • We will stand until she sits down and if she gets up, we will stand up again.
  • Also, if we are out to eat and someone comes over to the table, the boys and I stand up whether it’s a man or woman because you are honoring the presence of that person.
  • It may be unnecessary but it certainly is respectful.
  • We also hold Polly’s chair.
  • The boys learned at a very early age that ladies always go through the door


Ive asked the boys, How do you want your mom to feel? Do you want her to feel like the queen and that you respect and appreciate her so much?


Tune in to the full episode to hear how to make sure your mother or wife knows you are thinking about her leading up to birthdays or holidays, and how to prepare your children to notice the kinds of things they should look for in a future spouse.


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On this week’s episode, I answer a very emotional listener question from the friend of a football coach who has lost his son.


Everybody has a worst time in his or her life.

  • I can’t imagine that it gets any worse than losing a son or daughter.
  • I have some understanding of the shock and grief; my parents both passed away at a young age.
  • My mom’s passing was long and drawn out, and my dad’s was a call in the middle of the night.
  • While your memories and longing will never go away, the awful grief that you feel right now will pass.


Since your friend is a football coach, let’s consider eternity to be the length of a 100-yard football field.

  • You were with your son for 19 years.
  • Let’s assume that you’re 40 and will live another 40 years.
  • That 40 years is not even a blade of grass on the football field of eternity.


This sounds odd to say, but if my parents had lived a normal life span, I wouldn’t have ended up doing what I do.

  • Everything that has happened in my life came about after being forced into a position where I had no options.
  • I believe you will find so many people and families that will be transformed not only because of your son’s life, but because of your son’s short life.
  • You will find a purpose in this.
  • You will find a time when you will be oddly grateful that you were allowed the opportunity to deal with and learn from this.


Please tune in to the full episode where Andy references a previous In the Loop about finding peace when dealing with death and mentions some extremely inspirational songs he recommends listening to daily when times are tough.


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On this week’s episode, I answer a listener question on how to guide your thinking when beginning with the very best end result in mind.


I really believe that the best is an ever-expanding target.

  • As your understanding of what is possible expands, your determination of what the best is will also expand.
  • When people talk about best practices and industry standards, they’re talking about the way everybody has thought and operated for years.
  • Don’t let your methods determine your Determine the destination first and then design the methods that will get you there.


The destination you determine should be the very best you can possibly imagine.

  • If you imagine something that someone has done before, you’re shooting too low and need to go back to the drawing board.
  • I’m trying to lay out a thought process with a goal so ambitious that I will be forced to come up with methods that will approach it.
  • A shift in thinking creates a shift in choices and actions—and eventually results.
  • If you want massive results with your family, finances or business, every single thing starts with your thinking.


Tune in to the full episode to hear what Andy considers his own “best” to be, and what promotional tactic he considers more valuable than advertising.



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On this week’s episode, we have renowned author Jerry Jenkins back with us for more laughs, and to compare notes with Andy on public speaking and how to deal with editors. He also gives us a preview of his latest book.


Andy is at the top of the public speaking game, but Jerry is also a sought-after public speaker.

  • Jerry had always heard he should ask for an introduction that sets up what he’d be covering, and that mentioned he would be funny.
  • Andy, in contrast, has learned that too big of an introduction before speaking gave the audience unrealistic expectations.
  • “Under-promise and overproduce,” therefore, is one of many public speaking pointers Andy goes on to discuss.


Jerry is at the top of the writing game, but Andy is also a successful author and has some good questions for Jerry.

  • Jerry’s asked how he comes up with endings, and the “Carol Burnett Show” “Saturday Night Live” approaches to ending sketches are debated.
  • Jerry’s also asked if a 21-time New York Times bestselling author like himself still gets pushback from publishers on how to write (and how he deals with it when it does happen).


Jerry also addresses the interesting concept of why nonfiction has to be unbelievable and fiction has to be believable.

  • Andy and Jerry both rely on detailed research to provide credibility for their stories and characters.
  • Andy discusses his approach to writing about pivotal figures in history who are still obscure enough that most people have never heard their stories.
  • Jerry, in turn, mentions the fun he’s had grilling experts about the future and getting to dream up things that sound like science fiction but will actually be reality soon.


Tune in to the full episode to hear Jerrys synopsis of his brand new novel, Empires End, and to find out what hes been doing at thats breaking down barriers for aspiring authors.

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