In the Loop with Andy Andrews (general)

In this episode, we answer a listener’s question on shared custody.

Provide children with consistency in rules between both parents.

  • Divorced parents often feel anxious about what their children think, so they grow lax on the rules.

Have a conversation centering around your love for your children.

  • Both parents should love their children more than they hate each other.
  • Discuss the boundaries you’ll set for your children to provide consistency and present a united front. 

Tune in to hear how to have a tough conversation with your ex-spouse.

You can also hear more from Andy by subscribing to his new podcast, The Professional Noticer. Just go to AndyAndrews.com/podcast for details. 

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On this week’s episode, I talk about a very unusual summer event that occurs a few times a year on the shore of Mobile Bay.

Something very unique happened earlier this week while at a book signing in Fairhope, Alabama. 

  • There is a 15-mile stretch on the eastern shore of Mobile Bay.
  • In the late summer on a still night between two and five in the morning, fish pile up on the shore for several hundred yards.
  • I’m talking thousands. Flounder, Whiting, Mullet, Shrimp, and more.
  • This is only one place in the world this happens and it is called a “Jubilee.”

 

I am shocked by how many people read The Noticer Returns and think “Jubilee” is something I made up.

  • This has been going on for centuries.
  • Years ago they had bells on the porches of the houses along the bay to let the community know when the phenomenon was occurring. 
  • The fish are almost stunned or asleep. It will last for an hour or two and then they’ll wake up and swim back into the gulf.
  • People will fill their ice chests and have fish for a year.

 

It’s an odd thing in the world where someone’s influence or money can buy what whatever they want.

  • You got enough money or influence and you could sit down with the president for dinner or have Kenny Chesney play a show in your backyard.
  • There is not a single way you could ever reserve a time to go see a Jubilee.
  • It is such a fascinating thing, but it kills me because I’ve never seen one.

 

If you haven’t read The Noticer Returns and want to hear an amazing story involving a jubilee and how it impacted the lives of several people, The Noticer Returns

 

Andy will also be having a parenting conference at Wiregrass Church Sunday September 21, 2014 at 7 pm. This is a free event, but you will need tickets, as is it limited to only 1500 attendees,

Click here for more info. (It’s the third bullet point on the bottom right of the site.)

 

Questions for Listeners

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Direct download: ITL150_Jubilee_A_Fishermans_Dream_Come_True.mp3
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On today’s episode of In the Loop, Andy and A.T. discuss the epidemic of business, government, and community leaders being unfaithful in marriage and what we can do about it.

 

What are the sources of infidelity?

·      One is the fact that we live in a fallen world—the nature of man is a source of it

·      Our affections rule every part of our life, so we must guard them carefully

·      Even if you’ve been married for a long time, you still need to constantly guard yourself

·      You have to live an open life—a life in which you are honest with yourself

·      Never be convinced that this can’t happen to you

 

Andy recently talked to a group of politicians and their spouses about infidelity and dishonesty

·      He told them that all the infidelity and dishonesty among politicians had made the average voter sick of all of them, whether they had done anything yet or not

·      He told them not to let weak moments get in the way of all the work they put into getting elected and all the good things they want to accomplish

·      Share everything with your spouse—email accounts, Facebook passwords and messages, etc.

·      Never be in a room alone with someone of the opposite sex

·      Make fences around you that are guarded by those you love

 

Most of the time, men are at the root of infidelity, but Andy has a thought for women as well

·      Marriage is about love and respect

·      Women feel respected when they are loved

·      But men feel loved when they are respected

 

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Questions for Listeners

 

·      How do you guard your marriage from infidelity?

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Direct download: ITL064.mp3
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Andy shares critical wisdom on maintaining balance between work and family in response to a great listener question.

Listener feedback question: Matt became a financial advisor three years ago. The issue with advisors in his business is that no matter how much they achieve, there is still uncertainty and deep-seated insecurity about the business and what might happen tomorrow. He is about to go on a family vacation and all he can think about is opportunities he is missing for his business. He loves his family, so how does he give them 100% of himself?

 

This is a question a lot of people, including Andy, have struggled with over the years.

·      If you ask a group of people, “What comes to mind when you think about success?” They will say things like: boat, house, car, etc.

·      If you ask people, “What comes to mind when I say successful life?” Then, people have a whole different set of answers that usually involve their family.

 

The first thing Andy encourages people to do is to determine what they are after.

·      Are you after success…or a successful life?

·      You have to always keep your end destination in mind and focus on the tasks that will get you there.

 

This is a struggle Andy goes through when determining how much time to spend writing and speaking and how much time to spend with his wife and two boys.

·      He used to think that if his mission in life is to help other people live the life they could if they only knew how, then he should always take advantage of speaking in front of as many people as possible.

·      One day, he read an interview with Billy Graham where Graham said that the one thing he would have changed about his life was spending more time with his family.

·      Here’s the interesting thing—when you look at the Butterfly Effect, you will see that the time you spend with your family is at least as important as the time you spend doing your work.

·      That one child you spend time with could go on to do something even greater than you ever do because of the time you spend with them.

During the five days you’re gone with your family…you will not miss anything.

·      If you spend that vacation thinking about work and looking at your cell phone, then when you get back you’re going to spend your time at work feeling bad for not giving 100% of yourself to your family.

·      Your life will be thrown into disarray and you will be living in fear.

·      Instead of living in fear, we should strive to live in faith.

·      As you continue to improve in your field, you won’t have to worry about missing anything because eventually people will be waiting on you to return.

  

Questions for Listeners

 

·           Have you read Andy’s new free eBook, The Perfect Moment? If so, we’d love to hear about the perfect moments you’ve experienced!

o   Phone: 1-800-726-ANDY

o   E-Mail: InTheLoop@AndyAndrews.com

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o   Twitter.com/AndyAndrews

Direct download: ITL041.mp3
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